Tom Sawyer wasn’t the only one: dead people like to attend their own funerals. Come on, wouldn’t you? They tend to stand near the end of their coffin, and watch as people pass to pay their respects. They love looking at all the flowers and expressions of sympathy (so make sure you send really nice ones. Just sayin’).
Tom Sawyer enters his own funeral….and everyone nearly drops dead for real.
While the deceased enjoy seeing all the old friends and acquaintances, its frustrating for them to see all the sadness, because they know that, “Hey, I’m STILL HERE…”
Grief is a hugely powerful emotion. It can work like a giant anchor around the spirit of a deceased loved one, keeping them (and you) from moving on. They still care deeply about us, so intense levels of sadness make it hard to leave. Kinda like a mom not wanting to leave their crying child (although, there are some crying kids you probably can’t get away from fast enough).
After our mother passed, my sister was desperate to “hear” from her. She wanted a sign,to dream of her – ANYTHING. But that powerful grief actually blocked Mom from coming through. It was like a curtain of white noise that nothing could pierce. Once some time had passed, and the need wasn’t as great, she did indeed have wonderful experiences of Mom’s presence.
Allowing our loved ones to transition is the natural order of things. It’s not easy, but if we keep in mind that they’ve just moved on to another level of existence, one that allows them to stil be with us (albeit in a different form), we’re more likely to experience their presence, either through a medium, dreams, or little “signs.” More importantly, letting them go helps them in their new life. And it allows you to continue on your own path, on this side of the veil.
I know that some cultures “celebrate” death. That’s not exactly my style, but I do try to encourage people to put their grief in perspective, to the extent that they can. You will see them (for real) one day. Trust me on this one…
I work as a psychic/medium – but don’t limit myself to two-legged clients. I’m frequently asked to talk to pets, including those who’ve passed over. And their take on that experience is pretty interesting.
Not quite the Spirit Pet I'm talking about....
Animals understand – on a very fundamental level — that death is merely a change from one form of energy to another. I believe its because they’re closer to nature; they recognize the rhythms of life, and don’t attach so much baggage to them.
They also know that, while death may keep them from playing fetch, it doesn’t really separate them from their human friends. They still pop in to curl up on their favorite spot on the sofa, or patrol the house, making sure everyone is safe and sound.
"3 a.m. and all is well...."
A spirit pet will often help a living animal adjust to a new home. In my volunteer rescue work, we placed a cat with a family who had just lost their sweet Pearl a few months before. I strongly sensed — and so did the new kitty – Pearl’s spirit. But I also got that she was helping him figure out his new surroundings and settle in.
Animal spirits frequently “direct” their owners to their next pet. They know best what that person needs, so they’ll arrange for a certain stray to cross their path….or to spot an ad for a dog in need of a new home. Its kind of like being a four-legged matchmaker!
"Hmmm....a Boxer mix dating a Yorkie? Not gonna work..."
Intellectually, most of us understand that we’ll be reunited with our furry loved ones at some point, but it’s a tougher sell to our hearts. Right before you go to sleep, ask your spirit pet to make its presence known. You may dream of them, or think you feel them jumping on the bed, or brushing up against you (they are). Keep your radar up and you’ll start to sense them more often – because that powerful bond between us never dies.