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How To Connect With The Dead

By a certain age, we’ve all acquired a few things:  a credit rating, a droopier ass, an inability to remember why we came into the room.  We’ve also acquired more than a passing familiarity with death and the loss of special people.

Like that droopy ass, this is something we’d rather not have to deal with.  But we do.

Even though I spend a fair amount of time connecting with the dead, it hasn’t made my own personal losses that much easier.  I have felt my mother’s presence many times, but sure wouldn’t mind the chance to hug her again for real.  I know that will happen one day, but in the meantime….

You know, I kinda hate to call them “the dead” because they do indeed continue to live in another dimension.  They interact with us through our dreams, through little signs  (like finding pennies), or by using a medium who is sensitive to their energy.

But I like this exercise, too.

Start by inviting a loved one on the Other Side to meet you in this meditation.

Choose a time when you will be completely relaxed and undisturbed.

Get comfortable and take several deep breaths.  Envision a warm ball of white light surrounding and protecting you. Now settle in and focus on your breathing.

Imagine that you’re at the top of a beautiful marble staircase.  You begin walking down the steps, noticing how sweet the air is and how peaceful and relaxed you are.

At the bottom of the staircase is a path that winds through a beautiful, lush garden.  Step onto this path, noticing the beautiful trees above you, the flowers in bloom and the birdsong over your head.  It’s a magical, peaceful place.

Continue focusing on your breath as you walk along this winding path.  Ahead is a garden gate.  Push the gate open and walk inside.  Amidst the greenery and flowers is a marble pavilion, open on all sides.  The marble columns glow with light.  You can see two comfortable couches inside.

Walk up the steps to this pavilion and settle into one of the couches.  The pillows are deep and soft, and you’re totally comfortable.

As you relax in this special place, you hear footsteps on the pavilion stairs.  Your loved one has arrived.

Look at them as they settle into the other couch.  How do they look? What are they wearing?  Don’t be surprised if they appear younger than when they passed.

Just stay in this quiet place for a moment, feeling their presence.  They’re so happy to be with you again.  Bask in that love.

Now ask them a question.  Go with the first response you get.  It may be a gesture, they may “show” you something, like a symbol.  Or you may hear words.  The most important thing is to not doubt what you get.  This is really happening.

When its time to leave, thank your loved one for meeting you and give them a hug.  Allow this beautiful, eternal energy to flow through you, and know you can be with them any time you want in this special place.

As you leave the pavilion and go back through the gate, you turn once more to see them smiling at you.  Walk back along the path to the marble staircase.  Walk up the steps, coming back into the present moment.  Open your eyes.

It’s a good idea to jot down your experience in a notebook.  This will help you notice any information you got in the meditation when it shows up in real life.

And it will.

One day, you will be able to hug your loved one again for real.  But in the meantime, the Pavilion is a great meeting place.

I’d love to hear about your experiences after you do this meditation.  Leave me the details in the Comments.

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Touched by the Dead

Almost every time I have a client sitting across from me, they tell me that they want to hear more often from their loved ones on the other side.  A medium can be useful in this regard: it’s sort of like being an iPhone for reaching across the dimensions.  But those who’ve passed are always letting us know they’re around in less technical ways.  We just need to pay attention –and then acknowledge it.

Me: "Siri, call Other Side."Siri: "Are you high?"

Me: “Siri, call Other Side.”
Siri: “Are you high?”

Many times, we’ll have an experience that makes us go, “Hmmmm” — and somehow, you just KNOW that it was from the other side.  There’s something a little different, out of the ordinary — but here’s what happens: we talk ourselves out of it.  We dismiss it as a coincidence, or imagination, or a hundred other things.  And thus, another wonderful tickle from our loved one goes unacknowledged.

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You KNOW that smelled like your Dad’s Luckys…

In the movies, people have big, dramatic moments where they connect with the Other Side.  I wish it were like that in real life, but its not.  In my experience, the deceased tend to whisper, not shout.  I think it’s also a function of our own “radar” being a little clogged with reality TV, work stuff, text messages and other junk.

One way to tune that radar is to simply recognize when you DO get one of those little hinkys.

Right after my mother passed, I was upstairs in my loft, when I heard some things drop to the floor of my kitchen below.  I just “knew” that it wasn’t random — it was my mother letting me know she was there.  A week later, I had another experience of her presence, and I believe it was because I was a little more open to that energy.

Signs of your loved ones come in little ways:  you may hear a song that makes you think of them.  You may “hear” their voice in your head or smell their cigarette smoke.  Finding pennies is another way spirit shows up, or you may have a dream about them.   You may simply feel that they’re with you, especially at special occasions like births, weddings or graduations.  With pets, you may think you hear them around their favorite spots, or feel them sleeping on the bed with you.

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The most important thing you can do is to acknowledge and thank them for reaching out.  When you do that, you grease the channel and allow for even more communication.  Don’t blow it off or think you’re imagining it:  that’s like turning the ringer off on your phone, and forgetting to turn it back on.

I love the fact that our loved ones are still with us. While it would be great to hug them for real, I’ll take finding a penny, or smelling my dad’s pipe or hearing my mother’s favorite classical piece when I turn on the car radio.  It’s a decent substitute.