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How — and When — Change Really Happens

Her email was all in caps: HELP! I’M TRYING TO CHANGE, BUT DON’T SEE ANYTHING HAPPENING!!!! (Yeah, that made my head hurt, too.)

This client is not alone. Lately, I’ve had a run on folks coming by who are trying their damndest to make a shift – but the results don’t seem to be following. It’s super-frustrating.

Most of us think “change” is like a vending machine: we put our intention in, so we should get an instant payoff. Wouldn’t that be great? But the reality is, we feel like our intention is a stuck bag of potato chips. Hate when that happens.

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What I frequently see is that the payoff is closer than we realize. We just have to keep on truckin’. That’s what the Universe asks us to do: keep walking.   Have some faith. Because with each step we take, the Powers That Be take one towards us.

I’ve seen this happen time and again: we think that we have to do it all, but the truth is, we have partners. And when we show the tiniest bit of willingness to move ahead on our path, we get an assist. Our spirit guides, the angels, loved ones on the Other Side….these are just a few of the entities available to us to help us fulfill our mission here  [the rule is, though, you have to ask them for help. Even if you’re not sure what kind of “help” you need,  just send out a generic 911 call.  Then watch for signs that you’ve been heard.]

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I also think our idea of “results” needs to shift. Our society encourages the notion of “overnight success,” “instant this” and “instant that.” But successful change is a process. It’s not one moment, but a bunch of them.   If Jeannie could blink and make it happen all at once, that would be cheating (remember how many problems her “help” caused for Major Nelson?  Am I dating myself?)

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The Moon card in the Tarot is all about this. You can’t see a foot in front of you in the dark. It’s all kinds of scary (hence, the yapping dogs). But in order to get out of that spooky forest you need to keep pushing through. If you just sit down and curl up in a ball, that’s how you’ll stay.

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Be brave. Even when you can’t see the results yet, keep working it.   Keep the finishing line in mind. All of a sudden, you’ll come around the corner – and there it will be.

If I can help you push past some obstacles and stay on the path, get in touch.  In the meantime, sing us out, Bono.

 

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The Real Trick to Changing Your Life

I met a woman –call her “L”  — in January.  First-time client.  This woman’s back story was pretty amazing: horrible childhood,  husband dies on their 7th anniversary leaving two little boys to raise alone.  So she was training to be an electrician in a decidedly macho business; in fact, she was just promoted to an especially challenging specialty. On top of that, she just wrote a book about her experience stepping into that world.

She is pretty much THIS woman...

She is pretty much THIS woman…

Total badass, right?  But her weak spot was the guy who was living with her.  We’ll call him “R.”  This guy was a cheater and a slob; he spent most of his waking hours putting her down, calling her names.  That was when he wasn’t eating Cheetos on the couch (and wiping his hands on the cushions, probably). He took her money.  He ran around.  The guy was a walking  old-timey blues song and you would wonder why anyone would put up with his sorry ass.  But she did.  It happens.

No surprise that “L” was frustrated and mad with herself.  She knew he was a bonehead. She knew she had put up with this for too long, but she worried about making it financially if he were out of the picture.  She wondered if she’d ever find anyone else.  You’ve heard this story before.

Cut to this afternoon, a few months after our first meeting.  “R” is still in the picture — but not for long.  “L” has been quietly making some plans.  She rented a storage unit to stash her precious items (in case he decided to mess with her — ’cause that’s the kind of tool he is).  She secretly opened up her own credit cards and took a loan against her 401K to give her a cushion.  And, on her way to my office, had hit the Home Depot for a new set of locks.  Bah-ZING!

Don't let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya!

Don’t let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya!

The funny thing is, “R” seems to know something’s up.  And he’s trying to be all nice again — because clearly, his usual m.o. of being a jerk is not having the expected effect of putting her in line.  “L” is still a little freaked out over the change that’s coming — but she keeps moving forward.  No wonder THIS  card came up for her:

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The Moon is about being spooked by uncertainty.  The Moon’s light is deceptive; even on the brightest night, you can’t be quite sure what that is in front of you. Vicious dogs are a-barkin’, creepy things are crawling out of the mud, ready to slime you.   You just want to curl up with the blanket over your head.  It’s a game of Blind Man’s Bluff, where you feel around in the dark, not knowing what you’re about to bump up against. Frustrating. Terrifying.

However, moving forward is what we must do.  And even the smallest effort counts.  It’s the fact that you’re trying in the face of uncertainty that’s the point of this card.  That’s where greatness starts; its Edison’s final push for the light bulb, the last record company visited by the Beatles.  And you won’t BELIEVE how fast the successes and “whoa, where’d THAT come from?”s start piling up on the back of those little moves.

I was so proud of “L”s eensy steps towards a life free from the janky vibe of “R.”   She’s scared, no doubt.  But she’s walking through the uncertain light of the Moon.  She may be crawling on her hands and knees sometimes – but  she’s moving.  Before she knows it, the sun will rise, showing that she’s farther down the road than ever expected.

That’s your word of the day, children: “try.”   And here’s your assignment:  think of something in your life that just ain’t working.  You’re putting up with a job you no longer like, a person you no longer love,  the 15 extra pounds, anything you know you need to change but just can’t.

Now, take a few deep breaths and sit quietly with a pen and pad.  What are the three smallest things you can do to start to change that situation today?  No big moves to overwhelm you, just little baby steps.

Here’s an example.  Let’s say your job is played out.  You’re just grinding it out, day by day, knowing that you want something else, but it’s just too damn hard to consider leaving it.   If this were me (and it was, at one point), here are my three baby steps:

1) Google a few job sites and just poke around for 15 minutes.

2) Write down three people to talk to about  possible opportunities (notice, I’m just writing them down, not actually contacting them at this point)

3) Pull up the resume’ and give it a quick once-over.  Again, we’re not making any actual changes to it. just initiating some energy.

I think you’ll find  that the act of doing something, anything builds momentum towards change. You take another tiny step…and another…and another. So have at it, and let the light of the Moon lead you forward into your dream life!

Tell me how you’re gonna do it in the comments below.  (And if you like what you read, share it!)